“There's good in all of us and I think I simply love people too much, so much that it makes me feel too fucking sad.” - Kurt Cobain
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Anonymous asked: Why are you so positive about love when things didn't work out between you and Violet?
Why wouldn’t I be? I mean, do you know how many different types of love there are, all with the same importance? There’s romantic love, emotional love, silly love, puppy love, and immortal love, just to name a few. How could I not feel love or see love just because Violet and I are apart at the moment? I don’t dwell on the past much, but that’s only so I won’t be let down in the future. My future will take me where I’m supposed to go. My love is staying right here with me. In my heart. Violet’s in the center of my heart, and that’s all I know at this point. I keep the love there, for everyone to share. I still love because it’s the only thing you can do to keep your heart open. She’ll find me again someday.
Anonymous asked: Hi Tate. I just want to say that you're doing a great thing by looking out for people like this. It's very compassionate of you to take the time to listen. I know I speak for everyone who has seen this blog when I say that I'm glad you're here. <3
I wish I could listen to everyone in the world, but I can’t. It’s not hard to listen, what is hard is knowing how many people need someone who think they don’t have anyone, but they do. Why can’t they see that? People want to listen to them. I want to listen to them. And hold them. Because it’s gonna be okay. It’s always gonna be okay.
Anonymous asked: Like most people, I'm afraid that I'll never find love and end up alone. I've never had a boyfriend and never even kissed a guy. Sometimes I feel like I set my standards too high, but at the same time, I don't want to be stuck with someone I don't like. My parents' marriage is horrible and I'm so afraid that if I lower my standards, then I will end up in a relationship I'm not happy in just like my them. But I don't want to be alone! I just have to know that there is a good guy out there for me.
You won’t be alone.
What you have to remember is that you’re not parents and you don’t have to be. It’s great to have standards for a boyfriend, but you just have to give some people a break. If it’s not something that could make or break your relationship, let it go. You don’t have to have control over everything, but don’t let any guy take you for granted either.
There are good guys out there. They’re right there, out in the open. If you tried to find the better in them, instead of the worse, you’ll see them. You will find love. Just keep all of your options open, and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. Just follow your instincts. Don’t go by the guys appearance. Try reading his heart; that’s what will tell you what he’s truly all about. Give your gut a chance. Give good-hearted guys a chance. It’ll surprise you what beautiful relationships form right in front of your eyes.
ic & ooc; Just the fact that I want to comfort and hold everyone and never let go, makes me want to cry sometimes.
Anonymous asked: My whole world just came crashing down on me today. I jut found out my best friend got raped over my spring break and I tried talking to the person I could test with anything, my "mom". I went to her house and I found out she was in the hospital, so what do I do? I go to the hospital, to find out she died from a heart attack. I literally have been crying since then, i just can't deal with everyone and I just need time to myself. She was the only person I could trust and now, she's gone.
It sounds like you’re taking on way too much. I know all of this, that you’re experiencing right now, is extremely painful. I couldn’t even imagine. But that doesn’t mean you stop living.
I’m sorry to hear about your mother, but that’s not what you need to hear right now, is it? I think you need a shoulder to cry on. Just because your friend is going through a lot of turmoil right now, doesn’t mean she doesn’t care about you. Be there for each other. Go to a movie. Talk about things. Don’t talk about things. Take advantage of the fact that you have a good friend to be around.
Your mother will never be gone. She’s in you. All the time. Forever. Hold onto that. Hold onto your friend for dear life. Talk her through things. Let her help you. Keep breathing.
Take some time for yourself tonight. Remember that nothing will seem as bad in the morning. Remember that the only thing you have control over is your strength. You will be strong because you know you can be. Carry that with you.
My thoughts are with you! <3
Anonymous asked: Lately I've been an emotional wreck, I don't know why either. I guess I'm just tired of all the drama at school, being alone, feeling like I don't belong. I'm always there fr my friends to listen and try to help them as much a I can, but when I need them, it seems like they don'tcare or don't have time to tal I me. They're always with their boyfriends an it seems like I've turned into the girl who won't get a boyfirend, and honestly I don't care that I don't have one, I jut want my friends.
Sorry this is late.
You will get a boyfriend as long as you keep believing that you deserve one. You do. Everyone deserves to find that one special person to keep them warm and cared for. You need that. You’ll have that. It’ll take time. You might get rejected sometimes. It’s not going to be easy, but when you find him, he’s gonna be your angel. Your beautiful, tender, compassionate angel, fully equipped to beat those guys asses who never got to see how truly life altering it would be to be in your life. To be with you. Because that would be a truly beautiful thing. Your angel is going to be one lucky bastard.
Anonymous asked: Tate, why aren't you here anymore?
No one’s seemed to need me lately. Do you?
Anonymous asked: (I'm the dancer) My team went to a competition on the Saturday, we placed second. I refound my love of dance, not because of our title but our abilities I be her for each other and really pull through. We really are a family. I thought I would share the good new with you cause you have really helped me through a lot. Thank you.
Congratulations! Really, I’m so proud of you and your dance team!
You know, you’re a very strong and brave person. Never forget that. It takes a lot of guts and talent to do what you have done. Good luck in everything you do! I’ll always be here cheering you on!
Anonymous asked: Okay so I've been dancing for 5-6 years now. I'm not the best but when I'm dancing it's like I can be myself, leave all the pain of the world behind and I don't have to worry about anything. I usually just dance my troubles away, as cliche as that sounds its true. Lately I've been losing my passion for dance and I don't feel like myself anymore, and my friends have even noticed. My grades have been slipping drastically and I'm jut a mess. I have no clue where to start trying to get my life back.
I think you should speak to a family member about your sudden loss of interest in dancing and your grades. It could be part of a larger problem.
If you truly are growing out of dancing, that’s okay. You know, change can be a good thing. I truly hope your grades aren’t being sacrificed for it, though.
I think you should ask your friends how you’re acting differently. Of course, I can’t give you a professional answer, but perhaps you’re just growing out of a shell you’ve been shoved up in for so long. It may take a while for you to get things back to the way it was, but it’s your job to decide who you want to be.
First, take on your school work as fierce as you can. Don’t drown yourself in it, but get back into the swing of things. Do your homework. Study as hard as you can. Ask your friends for help!
Next, I think you need to ask yourself a few questions. Do you want to be a dancer? Do you have other stronger interests you’d like to pursue? What could you see yourself doing as a career? Look into them, one by one. You can have more than one interest, you know. Just don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Just get yourself back to that happy, balanced place. Have a rational conversation with a trusty ear, and life should be back to normal in no time. Good luck!
